Why did no one tell me about this genius way to be a calmer parent!

Everyone tells me how calm I am and how patient I am.

And this all started way before I had kids, before I started my yoga practice, or started with the practice I am going to share with you today. Even as a baby, my parents tell me how I used to sit in the buggy and just take everything in.

But the truth was, I didn’t feel calm (past the baby stage anyway, I think I was truly a chill baby). But as I got older, calm didn’t always feel easy – even if it looked like it was. Sometimes it would come exploding out – usually at my siblings, but other than that, it pretty much went unnoticed.

It would take a lot to see me angry.

But then came my darling children.

And when you are overstimulated, a million things to do, and then they start on one – this anger bubbles up that sometimes takes you by surprise. I mean, imagine getting angry at a baby or a toddler? In a calm and logical state, that sounds ridiculous, but to the overstimulated parent, it can happen, and without support for yourself, it only gets bigger as the kids grow (and the attitude starts 🙄😂). And you can either be a snappy parent, a parent who hides in the bathroom OR you can actually do something about it in a healthy way.

When you’re so use to ignoring your own emotions but then you’re trying to be this mindful parent who is the calm in their child’s storm, who validates there kid’s emotions and helps them with their regulation skills – yeh…. that’s a struggle alright.

I learned a lot through trying to raise my kids to be emotionally intelligent. It’s one thing knowing that all emotions are okay and one thing to actually embody that for yourself. You see I have walls built up so high it’s hard to let people see anything other than the calm sometimes. But I learned I needed to let these feelings out, to process them. Because that suppression? It wasn’t helping anyone, especially myself. It was making me feel on edge, exhausted, and reactive. Feeling like I had to hold everything together at all times. Do Not Crack.

That’s when I really started leaning into EFT tapping.

Tapping is this genius tool that helps regulate the nervous system in a way that talking about emotions alone just doesn’t do. It allows you to acknowledge your emotions and feel safe with them before trying to move through them. And one of the points I tap on that has made a huge difference for me are the ribs.

The rib point is often left out in many tapping practices, but it’s a powerful meridian point connected to anger. And anger isn’t bad—it’s just that many of us were never taught how to safely feel and express it. So we end up gritting our teeth, bottling it up, and getting overwhelmed more easily.

I used to think I had to just try harder to be a calm parent—to read more books, to learn better techniques, to force myself to just not snap. But the real shift happened when I started working with my emotions, rather than against them. When I stopped trying to be calm and instead focused on real support for myself.

That’s what tapping has given me—an actual, practical way to shift how I feel in the moment. To recognize that when my kids’ emotions trigger me, it’s often because my own nervous system is stuck in dysregulation. And when I take care of myself, I show up as the parent I actually want to be.

Your Nervous System Needs Support Too

So if you’re finding yourself snapping more than you’d like, feeling overwhelmed, or struggling to keep your cool—it’s not because you’re a bad parent. It’s not because you don’t know enough mindful parenting techniques. It’s because your nervous system needs support too.

And tapping is one of the simplest, most effective ways to give yourself that support.

If you’re curious about how tapping can help you regulate your emotions and show up as a calmer, more connected parent, I invite you to check out my free Calm Hour for Parents sessions. It’s a space for you to reset, breathe, and start using this powerful tool in your own life.

Because you deserve to feel calm—not just on the outside, but for real.

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Have you ever tried tapping before? Or do you relate to suppressing emotions until they explode? I’d love to hear your experience in the comments!