Your Mindset Matters When Supporting Your Child With Their Big Emotions

There’s a moment we all know well as parents, right? That moment when your child is having big feelings that come exploding out — maybe a tantrum over something seemingly small….. and it is LOUD.

Your heart rate spikes, you can feel the tension in your shoulders and suddenly… you’re not the calm parent you promised yourself you’d be. You’re tense, reactive, maybe even shouting over them to make it stop.

And later? The guilt.

You replay the moment like a movie in your mind, wondering,
“Why couldn’t I just stay calm?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“I know better than that.”

I want you to hear this:
It’s not that you don’t know what to do.
It’s that your nervous system is overwhelmed, too.

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The Truth About Mindset (It’s Not Just Thinking Positive)

In mindful parenting, we talk a lot about tools — breathwork, tapping, how to respond/what to say, nervous system regulation. But at the heart of all those tools is one thing:
Your mindset.

And no, I’m not talking about faking a smile or repeating affirmations while you’re internally screaming. I’m talking about your deep, inner belief system — the stories you tell yourself about parenting, about your worth, and about your child’s behaviour.

When your mindset is rooted in shame, urgency, or “I’m doing it all wrong,” your nervous system stays in survival mode.
When your mindset shifts to curiosity, compassion, and presence, your whole body begins to soften — and from there, your parenting naturally follows.

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It Starts With You — But It Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect

The mindset shift begins the moment you say:
“I want to show up differently — not perfectly, just more aligned.”

And here’s the beautiful part:
Your kids don’t need a perfect parent.
They need an authentic one.

You believe emotions matter, you believe in teaching kids to trust themselves and show themselves compassion. But are you practicing that for yourself?

They need someone who is showing them — through your own healing — how to move through hard feelings, not avoid them.

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A 5-Minute Practice to Shift Your State

If you’re thinking, “Okay, but where do I even start?” — start with your morning.

Start with 5 minutes in the morning to reconnect, regulate, and reset your energy — before the day takes over.

✨ I created a free practice just for this —
Try the Morning Ahimsa Tapping Practice here:

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It’s gentle. It’s simple. It’s powerful. And it’s made for busy mornings and real life.

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Your Mindset is a Mirror

When you begin to hold space for your own emotions — with softness instead of shame — something magical happens:

You begin to hold space for your child’s emotions, too.

You don’t rush them out of sadness.
You don’t fear their anger.
You don’t take their meltdowns personally.
Because you’ve met yourself in all of those states, first.

This is the work.
This is the shift.
And it’s available to you, starting now.

You’re doing great. Keep showing up.